The date has come to an end, you’ve had a great time and are eager for a second date, but you’re not sure if the other person feels the same. Many people get very awkward towards the end of the date because they don’t know what the other person is thinking or their expectations. The guy is wondering if he needs to go in for a kiss or if that would be too presumptuous, and the girl is wondering whether the guy will call her back.
When your date is finished, please give it some breathing space, don’t text or leave a voicemail the moment you part, instead remain calm and make your way home. Once home, you have a valid excuse to send a text message. Texting is far better than calling because it’s a casual message and doesn’t have any awkward silent gaps to fill. It’s somewhat stereotypical, but if you are a girl, you can text that you got back safely and say thanks for a great night. If you are not keen on having a second date, lose the part about having a great night. If you are a guy, you can do the same and enquire whether she got home safely.
Connect Via Social Media
Social media (Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) has made the world of dating far more straightforward, and in fact, it’s something you can bring up as a topic on the date. If your date says they are not on Facebook or Instagram, it’s probably a signal that they are not interested and don’t want to go through the guilt of not adding you as a friend. On the other hand, if you have a fun conversation about Facebook, you can casually comment about catching them up on Facebook. Again, don’t get home and add them as friends straight away but leave a cooling-off period. If the date was on Friday, wait till Monday so you can add them ‘while you were at work.’
Men don’t call for one of three reasons: they don’t know what to say, they don’t know whether you are interested in another date, or they are not interested. However, if things have gone well with texting or adding you as a friend on Facebook, the chances are that the other person is receptive to another date, and a phone call would be welcome rather than an embarrassment.
Moving on or Second Date
If communication has dried up or your texts went unanswered, then it’s time to move on to the next person and go on another first date. However, if there has been communication, calling the person for a second date will probably get you a yes. Try and keep the 2nd date as casual as the first. Maybe a group of you are going to a pub quiz or doing a group activity so that you can invite them along. Remember, your friends probably have a better idea if the person is right for you or not so introduce them early to get their opinion!